Be more self-confident? 25 helpful phrases to help you do just that.

Do you want to become more self-confident? Then it’s helpful to regularly say something nice and positive to yourself, a ‘positive reinforcer’. Maybe it sounds a little contrived to you, but it really helps. When you say something nice, positive to yourself it works its way into your brain. The more you practice doing it the better it works. It is a kind of re-programming of your thoughts that makes you feel stronger. In this blog, 25 phrases to boost your self-confidence.

Becoming more confident with positive statements

Suppose a colleague of yours is busy and asks you to take a call from him. You do so immediately, and as you pick up the phone, he smiles and raises his thumb. Something like that does you good. It feels good to help him. This colleague uses positive reinforcers.

It encourages desired behavior

A positive reinforcer encourages and reinforces desired behavior. So that thumb and smile are positive reinforcers of your behavior. This increases the likelihood that you will help him again next time. A compliment is another example of a positive reinforcer that we use in our social interactions with each other.

Give yourself a big thumbs up

There are also positive reinforcers you can give to yourself, usually a phrase or a thought, that positively encourage you to develop certain behaviors. Suppose you are excited about giving a presentation and you are nervous.

Then the thought: COME ON, YOU CAN DO IT! is stimulating and helping desired behavior: giving a presentation from self-confidence. You will find that it will also reduce your fear of failure.

Below is a list of possible helpful thoughts that you can use as positive reinforcers. It’s important that such a phrase appeals to you and suits you. So above all, formulate your own positive reinforcer!

Become confident with these 25 phrases.

1. I’m going to do it today.
2. I am totally ok the way I am.
3. I hold on to the positive things in my life.
4. I believe in the power of myself.
5. I am who I am and that’s good enough.
6. I surround myself with loving people.
7. I am worthy of standing up for myself.
8. I have something to offer the world.
9. I decide what choices I make.
10. I do what I can and that’s good.

11. I take the day as it is and stay with myself.
12. I’m okay.
13. I have confidence in myself.
14. I look positively at the now and the future.
15. I look forward with confidence to what comes tomorrow.

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16. I let go of negative beliefs.
17. I choose to be loving toward myself.
18. I am learning to stand up for myself better and better and I am proud of this.
19. I am kind to myself.
20. I keep thinking positive, I deserve to enjoy myself.

21. I listen to my inner voice and respond to it.
22. I am in charge of my thoughts.
23. I can do it.
24. I enjoy life and the opportunities it gives me.
25. I am proud of the things I have accomplished.

Tip: Select 5 phrases that suit you best and write them down in your phone, diary or a notebook. Every morning, before you go to work, say these 5 phrases to yourself.

For example, in the car or on the train. This will support you to structurally build your self-confidence, both privately and at work.